“Like a girl,” #whywewearblack, #metoo, #timesup, marches and constant messages of empowerment….there is certainly a firestorm these days.   We may very well be in the midst of a lasting cultural shift. We may very well see a time when all women are free from fear of retribution for speaking up and have equal opportunity to earn a seat at the table.

My two daughters are still young.  Who knows what they’ll face as adults….not me.  I absolutely believe it will include more room for women to lead and influence our communities.  Regardless, however, I must do all I can to prepare them to thrive through obstacles and setbacks.  I feel lost at times on how best to lead them in a world with so much noise.

Almost everyone on earth at some point in life will be a parent.  This role is hardly unique.  It occurred to me, though, that a job so ordinary is actually the most golden opportunity a parent will ever have.  I’ll never find the perfect parenting formula.  It turns out that embracing this opportunity doesn’t require perfection, only love and persistence.

I have the priceless opportunity to help my daughters develop the discernment to recognize unhealthy situations, bravery to stand against injustices when others lack the will and confidence to breakthrough barriers.  It’s my privilege to introduce them to women throughout history who, well before recent societal movements, achieved extraordinary things; Janet Guthrie, Elizabeth Blackwell, Marie Curie, Benazir Bhutto, Malala Yousafzai, Sojourner Truth, Elizabeth Cady Stanton and so many more!  I get to join them in reading about and exploring the world.  I’m the one who will encourage them to develop their very own thoughts on equality, human rights and privileges.

We, as parents, have the daily opportunity to show them that it’s our spirit and values that define us; and we are worth more than what is skin-deep.  They’ll look to us to encourage them to push limits, face fears and approach each day with curiosity.  This ordinary opportunity allows us to show our daughters that it’s better to be a lonely advocate for what’s right than conform.  We get to encourage their individuality, passions and self-respect.

When it’s their time to face the world, perhaps the noise will be a little lighter and more barriers will be lifted.  But for now, let’s make the most of this ordinary, golden opportunity because when it is their time, regardless of progress, I think the world is going to need them.

I pray I’m up for the task. — Betsy (a parent under construction)